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Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Heartbreaking Judgement

Well...we went back to State Court again today for what we thought was a review hearing. It ended up being much more than that. To give you the long and short of it, the State Judge, Judge Lindbergh, ruled in the favor of the tribe and ordered that "the child" be returned to the reservation. They will be coming Sunday night at 6 p.m. to take him away from us forever. The news has spread quickly and we have already had a lot of support from family, but I thought I'd mark it officially on the blog. I will write more within the next couple of days as to the details of the hearing, but I'm too tired tonight. If you would like to come over and see him before they take him away, give me a call and we can definitely arrange it. I think most of my next few days will be spent at home. I will be at church on Sunday, our last Sunday with our baby. More to come.

14 comments:

Jeni said...

I had to read that twice. I am bawling. Can't be real! O Heather!

Screaming Grasshopper said...

Heather,

I have no words! That is just WRONG!!! I cannot believe they would do that to you-- I am so sorry for the heartache they're putting on you.

Love,
Andrea

Carrie said...

Heather, this is horrible! How could this happen? I don't know what to say. I just feel awful!! How could they take him away from his loving family! Please let us know if there is anything we can do.

stayc said...

i'm just in shock. i was hoping so much for things to go in your favor. i can't believe this is happening!

Susan Q said...

I don't know you well Heather, but we've met before in your sister's MK unit. Christi has kept us up to date, and I have kept you in my thoughts and prayers. Today as I read the lastest news, my eyes fill with tears. I ache for you. While our circumstances are different, my desire to have a child of my own hasn't been realized. And as I approach 40, it may not even be an option soon. Its my heartache. But as a woman of faith, I'm sure you believe that all things happen for a reason. At times like this it's harder to keep that perspective, but don't loose sight of all the is right and good in your life and that you had the chance to bless this little baby's life for 6 months. He needed you and your family and while young, I'm sure you made a difference in his life. Continue to hope. That's all we can do.

Kristen D said...

Heather and Family-- I don't know if you know me or not, I am a friend of your sister Christi. My name is Kristen Smith. I have been following your progress and praying for you and your beautiful baby Talon. I am so sorry for this outcome, I can't even imagine the mixed emotions you are feeling right now. What I would like to share with you is that I believe YOU are an amazing woman! You and your family are so special to take in this beautiful baby and give him your unconditional love and support. Talon has truly been blessed by having you in his life to nuture & love him & be the family he needed. He will always have you in his heart & in his spirit. You will have many blessings in the future...it may not seem to bright right now, but God will Bless you & he will bless Talon as well. As i sit & pray for you, I am crying for you because as a mother myself, I know your heart is breaking & there are no words to describe your feelings, I am sorry for your pain. You are wonderful, you are a very loving and giving person & I am still praying that this is not the end for you & Talon. God Willing he will come back to you. God Bless you and your family.

sjohnson97 said...

Heather- I talked to Christi last night at meeting. She told me of your devastating news. I have not been able to stop thinking about you since then. There are no words that could adequantely comfort or heal a broken heart such as yours, except that I am so sorry. Sometimes we experience darkness because of choices we make, sometimes we experience darkness because of choices of others. Sometimes that darkness comes because our faith is being tested in ways we cannot even imagine. My prayer for you is for strength and peace. Strength to trust that the hand of the Lord will guide Talon's life, as it has up to this point, and peace that your heart will heal, with a place embedded, forever with a place for Talon. I heard a song last night by Faith Hill called, "A baby changes everything." For you it has.

With all my love,
Sarah Johnson

Taralee said...

Heather,
I'm sick to my stomach. I have had an awful day after learning what has happened, I can not even imagine how you are feeling right now. I'm terribly sorry, I love you, and if you need anything call!
Love Taralee

Bri said...

Heather-

Just found your blog from Jenn's. I am so unbelievably sorry about your situation. It just plain isn't fair and it is truly an injustice. I have a friend who has gone through literally the exact same thing. In their situation, the birth parents truly didn't want to parent their daughter, but the tribe wanted her, so nine months after she had been in their hime, the tribe took her away. It isn't right. No matter how you spin it.

I cannot fully express how sorry I am for your situation. I wish you peace and healing. I will keep you and yours in my prayers!

Melba said...

Oh my gosh...I am so very sorry to hear this news. I just found your blog through Bri so I'm new here. I will be thinking of you...

Melba

Dave Gerhart said...

you're in our hearts and prayers...

Mama Bear said...

your family in in my thoughts and prayers duing this difficult time.

Kara said...

My heart is completely breaking for you. I've been through a very similiar experience and can feel your pain through your words.

I am so sorry for this news.

Garett and Maquel Christopher said...

Heather, Tonight was a heart-breaking night for the entire community. I cannot imagine what you are going through. Judge Lindbergh is who we had with our adoption. I can't believe she wouldn't consider what is best for Talon. Please tell me there is more that can be done!!!