Tuesday, March 17, 2009


I think it is quite amusing that people argue against us. If they want to talk smack why don't they do it to our face? Anyways...this is a link to a forum that is still talking about the battle. Whoever is defending us...THANK YOU!!! If any of you want to see here it is:

Don't spend too much time on it, but it is quite amusing.

Unknown Source

Hey everyone. I got this from an unknown source and thought you might be interested. Also, I have a friend that is planning a trip to Washington D.C. If there is anyone out there who would be interested in joining her to try to get ICWA laws revamped PLEASE let me know!!!

Have a great week, and let me know what you think about this story.

To whom it may concern,

We are foster parents to a little girl, age 3yrs 2 mos. She came to us at 2yrs 4 mos., in April of ‘08, so it has almost been a year now. When we picked her up at an emergency rendezvous at Wal-Mart at midnight, we knew nothing about her, except that she had siblings. We quickly learned that she had been horribly beaten, and worse, neglected/starved to the point of a bloated belly, hair loss and complete apathy, no language and a developmental delay. She had a fractured skull, and numerous other injuries. As we later learned, she had been substance exposed and removed at birth, then reunited after a year in foster care only to have suffered greatly at the hands of her birth mother/boyfriend (we are not sure which or both). The mother has various substance abuse issues (meth and alcohol at least). This child, among the birthmother’s other children, was singled out for abuse. She alone was not fed and took the brunt of the beatings. In July ’08 we learned that she is part Native American, though how much we do not know. ICWA did not take the case until October. Since then the mother was incarcerated on aggravated DUI charges. She is out now. The case plan is still for family reunification, even though all parties (except birth mom) have noted that birth mom favors the other children. There are 3 different dads for birth mom’s 5 children. Her current boyfriend is the father for the other two remaining siblings that are still in foster homes (her other two sons have been placed with their fathers). He is not her father. As far as we know; the birth mom is the Native American, though all the case workers have been very hush-hush. Her birth father has never participated in any of the custody proceedings.
We fear that this child will be sent back to live with her birth family, at great danger. The mom is not bonded with this child, and L was so traumatized when we got her-both physically and emotionally. She has just blossomed with us, and we would be happy to adopt her. We live in Phx, AZ. Does anyone know someone that can help us? We have a GAL, but would like to get as much help as possible. Since learning the case was moved to ICWA I have spent a lot of time researching ICWA case law. We feel really helpless to help this little girl. She has already been in 4 homes and has had bonding and attachment issues. To us, although I understand the basic premise of the ICWA law, it seems almost like it is reverse discrimination. Her GAL told us if it were a regular CPS case they would already have moved to terminate parental rights. But because she is part Native American, she has to be subjected to torture and neglect. I am certain this was not what the laws were designed for.
If anyone knows someone who could legally assist us, please give us the contact information.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009


Hello everyone. I thought you would like to see pictures of Talon. Natasha sent them to me via picture message on my phone so they are a bit pixelated. She says that he is crawling and is pulling himself up on the couch. She also said that he has 7 teeth.
In regards to the call from a couple weeks ago, she was wanting to know if he had any ear infections while he was with us. Apparently he has had two since being back in Minnesota. She also needed to know the name of his doctor here, as well as what hospital he was born in. It was a very interesting conversation.
Kade has been having a hard time again the last week or so. He has come to us crying that he wants Talon back a few times. He has another counseling session this week. I hope it helps. Heaven knows I don't know what to do. I wish I could take away his pain. It breaks my heart as his mother to see the pain that I sometimes feel I forced on him.
We continue to pray for a miracle that will bring this sweet spirit back to us, and thank you all for your prayers as well. We miss him dearly.
Hope all is well with you and yours. Have a great week.

Friday, March 6, 2009

People Magazine

Just wanted to let you know that I talked to People Magazine on Monday. She said that the article was on hold and that she would call me on Wednesday when she got back to the office. I have not heard from her yet. I am going to give her a call today and hopefully get some answers.

P.S. I got a new job last week. That is part of why I haven't had time to update this as regularly as I would like. It is a good distraction, but definitely an adjustment of my time. Also, Natasha called last week, I will post about that conversation next.

Hope all is well with everyone! I thank my Heavenly Father every day for all the amazing support we have gotten. May God be with you all during the trials in your lives. I know he has been with me through mine.

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Natasha's Comment

Hey all...thought you might like to see Natasha's reaction to all this. Her comment is under the Tribal Court is Over post.

Monday, March 2, 2009

Tribal Court is OVER

Hey all. Thought I'd let you know that we had another update hearing today in tribal court. They dismissed us as interested parties, meaning we are no longer part of tribal court. SOOOO now the only thing we can do is to HOPE that maybe state court will bring something about. I don't know. I will be updating several times this week. LOTS of things have happened in the last 7 days, but I don't have time to write about it all at once. Keep looking...and KEEP spreading the word. Thank you again for your continued love and support.